Finding that “one”…..the chances feel infinitely better now that there are so many opportunities due to online dating sites. The days of sitting alone on a Saturday night because you’re friends out with their “ones” are over. If you want to meet that someone then just log-on and check out the millions of free online chat rooms!
There’s no hard or fast rule to chatting on a first or second date but if you have something in common with that person that you’ve emailed back and forth for a week or so, then what’s stopping you chatting in the real world with flair and gusto!
Sometimes chit chat is easier for some people more than others, and if you do struggle with conversations like that, practising with friends and work colleagues can help you significantly (unless of course it’s your friend that you have the massive crush on).
As a rule, don’t use chat up lines. Try to be yourself, be natural, and not smutty. Don’t ask her if how she likes her eggs, nor if she has 10p for the phone because you’re doomed to fail. You may get away with cheeky ones if she’s not such a serious type, but more often than not, it’s not worth it so don’t even go there.
Just be yourself, be honest and open. If you can connect with them on that level, everything else should and will fall into place. There’s a lot that can be said for a smile, and a glance done at the right time.
Don’t try to tell long winded jokes. Comedians may very well be able to laugh you into bed, but unless you’re Lee Evans or Lee Mack, don’t think that you’ll be able to do the same in one night. Just relax, and be you. Listen to what she has to say, and respond to any questions with more than a yes or a no. The way she reacts to you will give you more than enough to go on.
Find something that you’re both interested in to chat about. Could be sport, movies, even knitting if you’re that way inclined. Make her feel at ease. When she replies to you, don’t be judgmental and just listen. If you’re not into what she’s talking about just listen anyway, and maybe move the conversation on in a different way. TV is always good to talk about – although don’t reel off the plot lines to the last 10 years of EastEnders or she may just dump you there and then.
Compliment her, everyone wants to be appreciated. Don’t however go overboard. Be endearing, not smarmy.
Compliments that you can give, can range from “you smell lovely”, “you have beautiful eyes” to how you love the sound of her giggle.
Some online chat rooms have numbers where you can call members. 070 numbers, 0207 numbers, 07036 numbers, 070111 numbers, 07012 numbers etc are all used for chat and date services as well as 08 telephone numbers. These vary in price from 10p per min to 50p per min from Landline numbers, mobiles always vary so always check with your provider before you call. Adult chatline numbers such as 09s are normally used for sex lines and not normal chat and date services and these cost anything up to £1.50 a min. Don’t call 090 lines expecting girls on the other end to date you, because 9/10 they won’t.
Finding someone to date online is very safe indeed, providing you take precautions when you meet. Always meet in a public place, and always let someone know where you are going to be and where you are going (send them a text or a quick call if you are on the move to somewhere else).
Who knows, this time next year you may find that special someone who only lives down the road, but you have been too scared to talk to them initially face to face – online dating is so much easier when you have less confidence doing it face to face.